FOR PARENTS

 
Moving with kids Packing for your move  
 
 
 
MOVING WITH KIDS
Even when parents are excited and happy about moving, children of all ages experience some degree of stress. A positive attitude will go a long way in helping  your children receive the news of a move. Ask them for their feelings and listen carefully to both negative and positive thoughts. Be understanding and patient about their misgivings and hesitations. Try and take the children with you to visit your new neighborhood prior to the actual move.
 
Each age group will react to the move with different concerns:
Infants are probably the easiest to move. Try to maintain their general routine so their schedules are not greatly upset. Ask your agent for a list of reliable babysitters in your new neighborhood.
 
Preschoolers will find the move troubling especially when family routine and surroundings become strange. The idea of leaving familiar people and places will be upsetting, so be patient. Talk with them about moving trucks and boxes and let them help with packing and unpacking. Try to establish a normal schedule soon after the move to make the adjustment easier.
 
Elementary school children will worry most about leaving their friends. Visit your children's new school and if they do not wear uniforms, ask if there is a dress code- take a look a t what other students are wearing. Encourage tem to get involved in after-school activities or sports programs to help them re-establish friendships. Reassure them that they will easily fit into their new neighborhood and that it's  is just a matter of time before they make friends.
 
Take your younger children and show them around their new school. Visit the cafeteria, library, gym and their new classroom. Later, trace the route to and from school and familiarize them with their bus stop.
 
Teenagers are the most difficult because a relocation during adolescence imposes additional changes on an already changing young person. The disruption of a ten's social support system can force him to move back into a position of being more dependent on the parents. For teens, regaining a  measure of independence will be critical , and contacts with accepting peers and other adults will be particularly important. A minister, a youth group leader, another teen with common interests, an older adult who wants help with yard work or other chores can provide important links outside of the family.
 
Unless you can move toward the end of a season, don't worry about moving during the school year. Summer moves can actually be more difficult for children to adjust to because neighborhoods can be deserted while children are on vacation or away at camp. School provides a place for children to make friends, and most teachers will try to be more sensitive o your children's needs.
 
Help your children plan a going-away party. Give each guest an stamped envelope with your new address on it to encourage letter-writing.
 
Encourage your children to exchange photos and addresses with friends with whom they want to keep in touch, and possibly allow  a few long distance phone calls with "best friends" after the move to ease the adjustment.
 
Help arrange and decorate the children's rooms immediately. If you can get the kids settled, everything else will go more smoothly.
 

 
The following special publications are available upon request from our Relocation Resource Center:
 
Kids "on the move". A 32 page booklet which teaches parents exactly how to help their children before, during and after move. Practical suggestions fro kids from kindergarten thru college are provided in question and answer format.
 
Teen Talk.  Straight Talk About Moving, One Teen to Another.
Teenagers are of the utmost concern to relocating parents. This will help  teens and parents with practical advice about new schools, new friends and adjustment in general. The tone is upbeat and shows teens how relocation helps them gain confidence in future endeavors.
 
The House That Waited.  Little Children are often overlooked during a move because of the heavy demands upon parents. This little coloring book is all their own with a delightful story to help them express their feelings so that they can look forward to the move.
 
According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 10.8 million movers each year are under the age of 18; 3.4 million of these are preschoolers.

Source: Mobility Magazine

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Packing for your move
Packing is both art and science. Art in combining just the right items in each box to arrive damage-free, science in producing an inventory that enables you to quickly find anything you need at a moment's notice after arriving in your new home. Some helpful hints:
•  Pack to unpack. When possible, combine items that will go together in your new home.
•  Pack heavy items in smaller, heavy-duty cartons.

•  Use vertical and horizontal dividers fro glassware and other fragile items of similar size.

•  Clearly mark room destination on TOP and at least ONE SIDE of every carton.
•  If you plan to unpack over several weeks or more, make a complete inventory of the contents of each carton, and number clearly all cartons to be opened sometime later.
•  Pack tools needed for immediate use in your new home, in a single carton and mark all sides, top and  bottom clearly. This carton should be marked "TOOLS: Last Packed-First Unpacked".
•  Make sure your tool carton is either moved by you or is the  last carton on and the first carton off the mover's truck.
•  Remember, your mover wont know which child is which, so tag bedroom boxes with BR-1 or BR-2 and tape the same tags on appropriate bedroom doors.
•  Don't forget to make privacy preparations for you first night in your new home and clearly mark cartons containing shades or blinds
•Don't pack your moving inventory. Carry it with you to the new home.
 
RECORDS, VALUABLES, NOTIFYING UTILITIES
Gather records and memorabilia and make plans to move them as carefully as possible, including:
•  family medical and tax records
•  diploma's, school records
•  family genealogies, pictures
•  business, social organizations
•  other memorabilia
 
If your move is across town, you may want to move those things yourself on the day of the move. If you're moving across the country you may need another option:
Financial instruments , jewelry, coins, etc. may be shipped bonded carrier and fully insured, but you must have an itemized inventory detailing their condition and value. Ask your mover for details.
Notify utilities, media and others
Make contact at least one month before the move with utilities on both ends of your move.
√ Check this list of businesses to be notified.
 
  ELECTRIC POWER COMPANY
  NATURAL GAS SUPPLIER
 WATER COMPANY
  LOCAL TELEPHONE COMPANIES
  CREDIT CARDS, BANKS
  STOCK BROKERS, MUTUAL FUNDS
  MAGAZINES, BOOK CLUBS
  LONG DISTANCE TELEPHONE COMPANY
  RELIGIOUS ORGANIZATIONS
  BOAT, SPORTS CLUBS
  CABLE TV COMPANY
 
Keep in mind that most publications require at least six weeks notice for change of address. Let your neighbors, local schools (if you have school age children) and religious institution know how and where to contact you.
TAX DEDUCTIONS
You may be able to deduct some of your moving expenses when you file your Federal income tax return. And, you may have additional tax liability for reimbursement by your firm for items left in your prior residence, or negotiated in the sale of the property.
Talk early in the moving process with your accountant and/or attorney, before settling a financial agreement with your firm if moving at company request and expense.
Since IRS regulations change with some frequency, review your individual situation before the move and, by all means, keep accurate records and every receipt for all moving related expenses (and reimbursements).
Give records, receipts and a profit/loss summary on the sale and /or purchase of properties to your accountant in adequate time for analysis prior to the tax deadline.
Call your local IRS office for a copy of the IRS Publication 521 and Form 3903. If you qualify, you may be able to deduct expenses for:
costs for moving household goods and personal effects
costs for moving family pets
travel and lodging costs  related to the move, including meals
mileage costs
 
YOUR MOVING CALENDAR
Moving is a process that takes place over a period of six to eight weeks...or more! During each of those weeks there are decisions and activities that you can complete to make yours an easy move while shill conducting your business and enjoying family and friends.
Don't try to cram the entire move into either your final 2-3 weeks at the old address or into an already overloaded schedule - without sharing the responsibility within the family. Most of the hassle and much of the discomfort of your move can honestly be minimized  by pre-move planning.
Spread your moving-related preparation and work over the six to eight week period and follow the Moving Check List in this issue to help make your family's move a positive family experience and an easy move for every member of your family.
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